Thursday, June 29, 2017

Friends - and why you forget friends past #150
Some odd number of days ago, I watched a Facebook video claiming that while we tend to have several contacts on our Facebook friends list who are supposedly meant to be our "friends", the average number of people a person actually ends up keeping in touch with or even remember, for that matter, is only 150.

Whoa! 150? That was my exact reaction, and especially because, for the past couple of years, ever since I learned the beauty of finally socialising and not being afraid to make an ass of myself in public, I have gotten to know so many amazing people. Most of whom I have lost touch with, or can't even remember the names of. Eek!

Part of the reason why I, personally, have lost touch with said amazing people is due to my being terribly lame at keeping in touch. I don't like talking on the phone, unless it's with someone I feel highly comfortable with - I think I suffer from phone angst, although it has improved over the years (which is one of the many reasons why I love my job. I don't have to make any phone calls and experience everything from sweaty palms, waves of nausea and my tongue getting tied) - and I feel somehow if I do keep in touch, I'll eventually have to meet up with these people, and what if we no longer have things in common? Call it paranoia if you will, but that is very likely to happen -- especially people stuck in the nostalgia phase of my life with whom I can't seem to move past topics about the past.

I have learned that, while I would have loved to keep in touch with the really nice people who I become close with during certain time periods, and want to remember as many people as I possibly can, it is absolutely impossible.

I find that, as soon as I have moved on from a place -- be it college, University or an old workplace -- I suddenly become unable to keep in touch with people, and the only people who manage to stay in touch with me are close family members or friends who make a great effort to do so. Truthfully, I think that my brain's capacity when it comes to retaining people's faces and their memory is significantly lower than 150 -- much, much lower!

I would like to think that I have a memorable enough character for people to still remember me after years past, but I guess many people are no different from myself and end up forgetting to stay in touch with a great number of people.

Well, having said all this -- wouldn't it have been amazing if we could actually keep in touch with all the wonderful and beautiful, similar-minded people, that we have met over the past few years of our existence? I know I would have loved that. But we do live in reality, and reality tells us, "That's not possible darling".