Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Is our worth truly measured in our features?

It's not entirely unimaginable that looks have become such an increased obsession in so many people's lives that it's suddenly been deemed borderline insanity by some experts (read more about it by pressing the link - hopefully you have a browser which will automatically translate the Norwegian words into English - so you get at least an idea of what the article is about), but is that really what's important?

If it is true that looks eventually fade, why are people obsessing so much over something that can't be reserved for all eternity? - Constantly competing with the next individual, or feeling overwhelmed with sadness because "someone happens to be prettier" than them? In my opinion, what you regard as truth will eventually become your truth. If one keeps measuring their worth in how beautiful other people think they are, or what another person has that they don't have, they eventually become depressed to the point where they lack self-worth altogether. Trust me when I state that finding self-worth can be a task if its already been damaged by self-condemning criticism, or if it at first was always measured by, or believed to be, what others think of you.

If looks don't really matter, and it's the soul that does, why don't we spend more time nurturing the soul and growing mentally? Yes, Beyoncé sings in her song 'Pretty Hurts' that it's really the soul that needs a surgery. But is it really helping much with her prancing around half-naked in her music video - knowing full well that she has so many young females looking up to her, tormenting themselves in the quest for a Beyoncé body?

Self-worth needs to be taken back from whoever stole it, and be redefined. Your worth is not what others see, although some people actually see how beautiful you truly are on the inside, but I'd like to believe that self-worth come from the Creator (yes, I believe in God and am not afraid to stand for it lol) and how he sees you, His unfaltering love continuously shining on you. Once a person learns to see that two people cannot be compared - simply because no two people are the same in the first place - they start to see themselves as an individual with a greater worth, and an individual who needs to work on becoming better than the person they were the day before, rather than working to become better, or competing to become "more beautiful", than other people.

You'll learn to see that you can't ever be truly happy until you decide to see yourself in the light of yourself, not overshadowed or overwhelmed by the presence of other people. Other's will be there of course, and it eventually doesn't matter what other people think of them, you have qualities which make you the person you are. These qualities are far more important than frivolous obsession with temporary looks. It's not worth it to let outer beauty define you. It just isn't. Too much stress, eating disorders and self-hate comes from such views. The more dangerous thing is to try to obtain self-worth in the eyes of a man or woman.

Yes, beauty will never be a totally unavoidable subject. However, learn to see yourself as an individual set apart from everyone else out there in the world.

I really like the following Slam Poetry session with the young woman Savannah Brown. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did: