Thursday, December 15, 2011

Yes it's true, guys are shy too!

Ever come across those dating books? - The 'He's just not that into you' - 'act like a bitch, men love that' (or something like that) kind of stuff? It's funny how they always teach you that if a guy likes you he will eventually approach you. How come they never mention the percentage of guys who are pissing their pants just thinking about the thought of approaching you because they are too shy? Or the guys who actually appreciate when a girl 'with confidence' approaches them?

I personally don't think there's anything wrong with the tables turning every once in a while, because I feel that some guys will take forever in just realising they like you and another forever to let you know. If you are interested in a guy there's absolutely no rule book which states that you can't approach him; the only things people have to be sure of is that they go in but not deep. If you've already let go of your heart in the first instance, chances are that you'll be hooked and devastated if the other person doesn't feel the same way.

Women who tell themselves that it's wrong to approach a guy might just be afraid of rejection. But how else will you grow stronger if you're not used to rejection? How else will you tell yourself 'Better luck next time dude' if you've never felt the disappointment of rejection?

I don't feel a person has anything to lose by approaching the opposite sex, or anyone in general. It plays on your confidence whether you are able to approach people, no matter who they are, or not. For each person you do manage to approach - again, no matter who that may be - you gain a new level of confidence.

At first it did shock me that guys can be shy or afraid to approach a girl (even guys my age), especially because all those 'dating books for women' say otherwise.  Yeah, yeah....some girls actually pick up piles of crap like that purely for entertainment, while others do because they wish to acquire knowledge about dating.  I'm not new to the fact that even people who are older, are shy around girls too.

I'd say that instead of going into something with your heart, go into it with your mind first, that way you'll avoid getting hurt if things don't work out, or if you get rejected. You'd be surprised of just how few times you'll get rejected as opposed to getting 'accepted'.  It saves you the waiting and the fear. Try it. You've got absolutely nothing to lose.

In all honesty,  rather than meeting a guy at a club or any other noisy environment, I'd love to meet a guy in places like a University or a Library for example, at least then you'd be sure to get to know them in a sober state. You are more likely to know what their personality is like, rather than if they are drunk. The club scene is no place I'd like to meet a guy in.